First of all thanks everyone for your kind words. I may vent my frustration with my MIL, but I do love her very much.
Over the years she has always been one of those to cry wolf or say I can't. We have learned what things she can do and encouraged her to do them, but as things do get so she really can't we have been taking over. My FIL had always done everything and she never learned to do anything for herself, or wanted to. She also always makes a mountain out of molehill so after many false scares we learn to really question her when she says she is dying. This time though I am truly worried about her.
A few years ago she had a stent put in her heart. They told her she had the heart of a 60 year old. She called all our relatives and told them she had a heart attack and was near death. We got all the same calls then, why didn't we tell them she was sooooo ill and near death. We told them she wasn't but she likes the attention. Even now she is thrilled with the attention she is getting. Who knows what she has been telling them.
But now she is really sick. She has lost 10 pounds in 2 months. She is thin to start with. Her color is awful. We signed papers at the doctors so I can get her medical information. Tuesday she is getting an EGD and a colonoscopy followed by a cat scan of her abd. They did a ton of lab work, all the stuff I wanted drawn. They will check her gallbladder, pancreas, liver. Her doctor was really good about it. I was also concerned when I found out she wasn't sure what month it was. She has gotten pretty weak. I just feel like something really bad is going on. Hope I am wrong.
I did tell our relatives that we go there every day. I send supper over most days and we take her shopping. I help with the housework, but she likes to do it herself. In the good weather she is here 1 to 2 times a week to eat and I was dragging her to the gym with me 3 times a week when I was going regularly. We don't ignore her. But sometimes she doesn't remember us being there, sometimes she doesn't remember much of anything. And I think sometimes she just forgets to eat. Its sad. Why do you have to get sick when you get older. Isn't getting older enough?