It has rained for 3 days and is getting very old. Sunshine please. I start back to work tonight so I suppose this weekend will be lovely.
We have been pretty busy with my MIL this week. She fell the other day and it turns out her BP was pretty low. We are still having blood pressure problems. She has gotten very weak.
Yesterday the funeral people came over and she planned and paid for her funeral. Today we are going to the bank. The bereavement lady gave us the best advice we have gotten so far. She should be our lawyer LOL.
Today Rick is taking control of my MIL's bank accounts. They are cashing in her annuity also. It will cost them 1% but if it goes to probate it will cost them 6% to the lawyer. This lady said the lawyer wants you to leave all the money as is because he gets 6% of the estate. We knew he got paid, but not that much. That is why he was so obscure about answering our questions.
We are also having my MIL deed the house to my husband with her retaining right to life occupancy. As long as she is alive she gets to live there. I am going to do that with my house also. Deed it to my son with us retaining that right. I promised him I will not leave him with a mess like this and I am going to stop saving everything in case I ever lose enough weight to wear it again, LOL. Then the house doesn't go into probate and we can go about getting rid of everything and take our time. She has saved everything. I have clothes her mother wore! 100 years ago! Every card my MIL ever got is storedsomewhere in the house.130 years worth of pictures. It will be a nightmare.
We talked to my BIL finally last night. He has been difficult to get hold of. Basically we told him how things are being handled and assured him he would get his split, but he was just going to have to trust us. He does plan on coming up and taking her car. We told him no, how are we going to get her around. She can't get into the van easily or our low 2 door. He will just have to wait. We have to get this stuff done quickly and we can't get him to commit to when he is coming back. We made sure to tell him his mother wanted him up here soon and that she was not going to be here as long as they said originally.
She is handling all this pretty well. She feels bad it is so messed up and didn't realize the problems doing a will that way would create. Since she was a spouse when my FIL died it wasn't a problem. Everything went to her. She doesn't want the lawyer to get such a big share and doesn't want us to have to pay anything out of pocket. I will just be so glad when all this is finished so we can just enjoy our last days with her without messing around with all these issues.
Stress is taking its toll. My IBS is totally out of control and Ricks blood pressure is through the roof even with meds. Gee, I handled this much better 6 years ago when my FIL was ill. Then though all I had to worry about was keeping him comfortable. I want to get to that stage with my MIL soon. It is almost a blessing to go to work and leave it behind for awhile, but then I worry about her and I worry about a million other things that come with running two houses. I never used to worry. I have been meditating which helps. Taking a sleeping pill so I sleep well at night which helps me go go go during the day. The days are flying by. A new month is almost on us.
So my entried are going to slow down. I miss my carefree days of picture taking and bike rides but I will get them back. This is more important now. I have been reading journals on the run and haven't always had time to comment but take care all.