It as been a busy day. The hospice coordinator came at 9 and we filled out the paper work and found out what all the services are they offer. We are going to have a bath aide come twice a week to help my MIL with her shower as we just found out it has been hard for her. They will get a shower chair to help her out. The nurse will come twice a week also. I hope they both come different days because that will give her something to look forward to 4 days a week.
She loves company and always does better with the mental stimulation. Her nurses name is Julie. I thought that was great as it was help her remember, but when the nurse left she asked, What was her name again? I thought she was kidding but she wasn't. Anyway the whole thing went pretty well.
My MIL is doing pretty good, even joking around alittle. She even ate some soup I heated and some woman dropped off more soup for her. People are so nice.
We have been hearing from different relatives and some of her favorites nieces are coming next week to visit. They always spoil her rotten and she loves it. Cook gourmet and bring her See's candy which she loves.
Also went to the bank and got some paper work done and the lawyer is coming to go over the will. Rick needs to be named the executor of the estate and then everything is taken care of. All that will be left is taking care of her.
Tomorrow I start my long stretch again. I am thinking when she gets sicker of hiring a aide to stay at night while I work. My husband will be there, but he is a very deep sleeper. I should be able to find someone who is looking for some extra money.
Hospice also could havesomeone come in to do light housekeeping, but I should be able to handle that on my days off. They also have a respite care where once every 9 weeks for 5 days she can check into the hospital so we can get a break if we need it. Wouldn't that be great if they had that for all the care givers out there? There are alot of people who get no breaks from the daily job of being a care giver and if you think it is an easy job your wrong. We get these very elderly couple where one is the care giver. I don't know how the do it when they are elderly and frail themselves. Love can make you do many things you wouldn't think your capable of. They all look so tired though.
So that is where we are now. The first awful shock has worn off and the numbing acceptance has taken it's place. Plus worry. Worry she might suffer. But I am fairly certain hospice will do all in their power to keep that from happening.
It snowed all day off and on and not a single flake as remained as it is warmer out. We shall see what happens over night. I am definately taking a sleeping pill tonight. I only slept an hour or two last night. I need to be rested for work tomorrow.
Night all and once again, thanks for listening and thanks for the support.