I tried, I really did. But within 20 minutes we were fighting.
We were going to have my MIL's house deeded over to our name. Her lawyer advised against it stating we would have to pay inheritance taxes. My MIL didn't really want to do it as she as always thought that was a terrible way to get out of paying for your nursing home. We had tried to talk her into it years ago, but she said her house was suppose to be payment if she ever had to go into a nursing home. It was all she had to help with the payments and she didn't want the government to have to pay her way. Its her house and I could see what she meant. So we didn't do it. That means the house will go into the estate and be divided equally per her wishes.
Well my BIL is freaking out because he is trying to get on permanent disability and having this house be partly his will affect that especially when it sells and also he owes back child support. My MIL always sent him money to his roommate so he didn't have a paper trail of getting any money. So he wants us to go ahead with getting the deed changed even if Betty is against it. He will be able to talk her into. I don't want to now because I am concerned about the taxes. How will we get Bobs half if he takes the money and splits. He got very defensive and surprise, surprise, I blew up. All he is concerned with is getting the money and not having to have it in his name. Of course I told him paying child support was an honorable thing and he should be happy he was coming into money so he could contribute to his sons well being. Well....THAT didn't go over very well, LOL.
So anyway, after fighting for 25 minutes and ruining my evening I went to bed and took my sore puppy with me. And I was ticked at myhubby who just sat there. I feel since he agreed to be her administrator that means he has to follow her wishes. Nobody ever stands up to the BIL because he can get so obnoxious. Well I do. I told my MIL we having an argument and that the Swedes were ahead which she got a chuckle over. She is pure Danish and it is a joke between us.
So now the cards are on the table. My BIL has no doubts about how I feel and knows that we know he has been mooching off her for years. This might get fun. He also wants to change the funeral after Betty has changed it. She paid for it right away so any changes will have to come out of his pocket. She isn't dumb, LOL.
Zoey woke me up last night around 3:30 softly crying under her breath. I gave her a pain pill and some water. Poor baby. She is so sore. Right now she is lying at my feet. I hope the pain gets better soon. Well, time to go. Take care all.