Friday, May 18, 2007

Well guess who got in a fight with her BIL

  I tried, I really did.  But within 20 minutes we were fighting.

  We were going to have my MIL's house deeded over to our name.  Her lawyer advised against it stating we would have to pay inheritance taxes.  My MIL didn't really want to do it as she as always thought that was a terrible way to get out of paying for your nursing home.  We had tried to talk her into it years ago, but she said her house was suppose to be payment if she ever had to go into a nursing home.  It was all she had to help with the payments and she didn't want the government to have to pay her way.  Its her house and I could see what she meant.  So we didn't do it.  That means the house will go into the estate and be divided equally per her wishes.

   Well my BIL is freaking out because he is trying to get on permanent disability and having this house be partly his will affect that especially when it sells and also he owes back child support.  My MIL always sent him money to his roommate so he didn't have a paper trail of getting any money.  So he wants us to go ahead with getting the deed changed even if Betty is against it.  He will be able to talk her into.  I don't want to now because I am concerned about the taxes.  How will we get Bobs half if he takes the money and splits.  He got very defensive and surprise, surprise, I blew up.  All he is concerned with is getting the money and not having to have it in his name.  Of course I told him paying child support was an honorable thing and he should be happy he was coming into money so he could contribute to his sons well being.  Well....THAT didn't go over very well, LOL.

    So anyway, after fighting for 25 minutes and ruining my evening I went to bed and took my sore puppy with me.  And I was ticked at myhubby who just sat there.  I feel since he agreed to be her administrator that means he has to follow her wishes.  Nobody ever stands up to the BIL because he can get so obnoxious.  Well I do.  I told my MIL we having an argument and that the Swedes were ahead which she got a chuckle over.  She is pure Danish and it is a joke between us.

   So now the cards are on the table.  My BIL has no doubts about how I feel and knows that we know he has been mooching off her for years.  This might get fun.  He also wants to change the funeral after Betty has changed it.  She paid for it right away so any changes will have to come out of his pocket.  She isn't dumb, LOL.

  Zoey woke me up last night around 3:30 softly crying under her breath.  I gave her a pain pill and some water.  Poor baby.  She is so sore.  Right now she is lying at my feet.  I hope the pain gets better soon.  Well, time to go.  Take care all.


madcobug said...

No, I am  not surprised you got into an argument with him. I really don't think the house will effect his disablitiy as he is not getting the money by being gainfully employed but by an inheritance. I am like you, those kids of his deserves to get some money if he owes child support. Poor Zoey I can feel her pain. I pray that she soon gets better. Helen

rdautumnsage said...

Aha, the chips fall as they have no choice but to do around your BIL. Too bad you can't just pay him off and send him on his merry way. He is not there for your MIL or even his sons (his character speaks for itself that he doesn't want to pay the back child support). Your hubby is normally a lovable do good guy, but I agree in this case I think he should get a backbone with his own brother. I'm glad you have one and your not afraid to stand up to him. Poor Zoey! I'm keeping her in my prayers on the smoke she soon feels better! (Hugs) Indigo

rbrown6172 said...

so sad when these situations arise in families....i sure wish everyone could do what's right.  it sure would make it easier for all the others...and so often it's only causing all the problems.  good for you in standing up to him!  i love the butterfly!  beautiful.

coelha said...

Your entry is getting me steamed...  Your BIL is a piece of work.  I have two children from a former spouse that has lied and abandoned his children just so he can get off from paying child support.  People like this sicken me.  You had every right to get angry with him.  He should be grateful I wasn't there too.  Julie :)  

inquestoftruth said...

You can always refuse to have the house put in your name before hand.    Explain to MIL (because she knows) that you can't afford to be stuck with all the taxes, and that BIL is not dependable.     Hubby sounds like he's ok with you calling the shots, so call 'em.     And you will get throught this, Julie.    You will.
PS:   Give poor puppy a pat for me.

lanurseprn said...

Wow he actually does NOT want to pay his child support. He's creepier than I thought!
I'm sorry he's such an idiot and it's affecting you  so much. I'm glad you stood up to him.  Hubby Rick was probably just shocked??  Maybe he didn't really know what to say??  
Give Zoey a pat on the head for me. I hope her pain pill worked.

cacklinrosie101 said...

WTG, Julie!  Someone has to take the reins.  BIL needs to take the lumps as they come.  Hope it stands as is.  Poor Zoe...hope her pain goes away soon.  Chris

jckfrstross said...

have a good weekend:) sorry BIL is such a butt head. hope puppy feels better soon


jlocorriere05 said...

Well done for standing up to your BIL. He sounds like a pig, how any woman could get close to him is a mystery! Obviously one did for him to have a chld! I'm so sorry Zoey was in pain, poor soul, they can't tell us what they're feeling can they? Jeannette xx  

springangel235 said...

You have had a busy week...hope it all works out.  Have a wonderful weekend...hugs and love,

erarein63 said...

Family can be such butts, can they not?  Sorry.  Hope Zoey feels better soon.  Love the butterfly!  De ;)