Friday, November 2, 2007

Don't ya just days off


        There are great things about working 12 hour shifts......the long stretch off.  Oh Yah.  I don't have to be back to work until Thursday.   They wanted me to work yesterday, but I couldn't.  It was my MIL's birthday!
   What do you get or do for someone's birthday under the circumstances we are under?   One of her friends said she wouldn't wish her a happy birthday because it didn't seem right.   Hummmmm.   I did.  I wished her a happy birthday because we didn't expect this one.  A bonus birthday. 

    What do you cook for someone who eats maybe 10 bites?   She wanted broasted chicken so we ordered some.  No cake as she didn't want anything sweet. 

     What kind of gift?   Well she always loved flowers and cards so she got lots of those.  Almost everyone sent her a card this year except my BIL who we haven't heard from in a couple of blissfully quiet weeks.   But it hurt her I know.  She kept waiting for the call that didn't come.  But all in all it wasn't a bad day.

    Tomorrow is our official anniversary.
        34 years.  It is hard to believe.  It has gone by so fast.  Life has gone by so fast.   I am making him work as I want a grilled steak and some sweet potatoes.   I will saute the mushrooms.  We will be at my MIL's of course but she might eat a little.  I am bringing Zoey over also.  She is so much better.  Thin still but better and being alone so much is making her neurotic.  Hopefully she won't kill the cat or knock my MIL over.  Keep your fingers crossed.

     I watched a great movie.  It was called Mostly Martha.  It is a German film with subtitles and had a happy ending.  I need happy endings right now.  It has a subtle humor which I appreciated.  I highly recommend it.  They do a lot of cooking of the most fantastic food.  I probably gained 10 pounds just watching it.  Even my MIL liked it which is rare.  If it was made after 1960 she thinks most movies are dumb.  Subtitles drive her nuts and dry humor isn't her cup of tea but she still liked it.  Wonders of wonders.

    I haven't been around here much as you can probably tell.  I have been working on some personal issues and taking care of my MIL.  No matter how much you love someone this wears on you.  Emotionally and physically.  I am working on handling it better.  So Zoey and I are walking.  5 miles today, 5 miles tomorrow.  Then I have to get a perfect card for my hubby and Zoey and I are going to see how things go with her at my MIL's.  The weekend will be good.  No hospice visitors so she can just get used to the house.  She is always running around really excited at first about being somewhere with all new smells.

     Hope everyone is having a great weekend.  Joyce, I hope your husband is improving daily.  Take care.  Special thanks to Jeanie and Mary.  You both know why.



coelha said...

I really hope BIL comes through with at least a card.  I'm glad you celebrated her birthday.  Your MIL is so lucky to have you there--you really are a blessing..  Take care - Julie

jlocorriere05 said...

I can't believe your BIL forgot his mum's birthday. The gift of flowers was perfect for her, they always make the home look brighter. Have a very happy anniversary, I hope Zoey enjoys and behaves herself! I'm like your mum, I love old films! I watched Cape Fear a few weeks ago with Robert Mitchum and Gregory Peck ~ now those two could act!! Have a good weekend.
Jeannette xx  

kirkbyj05 said...

Five miles a day is a long way!  I'd rather have my short walk around the tarn....Lol!  Do enjoy your time off and smell the autumn leaves and smells.  Hmmmhmm!
Congratulations to you and Rick for hanging in there this long.  Lol!  It will be forty years next July for Bryan and I .  I reckon we women should get a 'medal for staying power' sometimes. hahahaha!
Wonderful to hear that Betty is sitting up enjoying her TV. I so love flowers as everyone who  knows Me knows.  Lol!
Glad BIL isn't in the picture at the moment and I await to read about the Tom and Jerry scenarios that will evolve this weekend with Zoey and Betty's cat.  
Fix Betty to her chair for safety.
Take care YOU!  And make the most of those special  moments this weekend.
Jeanie  xxxx

radar446 said...

Happy Anniversary!!  34 years is nothing short of a miracle in this day and time.  I'm really starting to wonder if most couples make it to the 5 year mark any more.  34 years is something to be quite proud of, and as you know, took a good deal of work to get to.  I wish you another 34+ years!


springangel235 said...

A Happy Anniversary to you and nice!!!  And a Happy Birthday to your MIL.  I know, she is upset your BIL did not contact dirty of him.  Sounds like she had some nice gifts...from you and her family.  Have a wonderful all.
Hugs and love,

madcobug said...

I see nothing wrong in wishing your MIL a Happy Birthday. Flowers or a new nightgown is nice to give. My dad and I gave  Mother a big rhodrodendron when she was in that condition for her birthday and her eyes just lit up and said "OHHHH". I was so happy we got it for her. Happy Anniversary to you and Rick. You two have done good. Helen

rbrown6172 said...

{{{julie}}} i know it has been rough on you these past several months. i know God has been with you.  :)  i think it's wonderful that you all wished your mil a 'happy birthday'.  that's what we do on birthdays.  :)  labor day weekend, we celebrated with an uncle, knowing it would be his last and it was wonderful.  happy anniversary!!  34 years...that's something to be proud of.

xxroxymamaxx said...

Happy Anniversary julie!!  Wow, 34 years!  That's amazing and something to be very very proud of as that is rarity for sure!!  and you're still in love.  Plus he cooks!! lol  Gotta love that.  Good luck with your MIL and happy birthday to her. : )  love ya, Shelly

P.S.  If I walked one mile I would be dead on the floor! lolol  You go!

lanurseprn said...

I'm soooo glad your MIL got to have another Bday. I don't see why someone wouldn't celebrate that....but whatever. There are lots of gifts that are good. But, it sounds like you had it covered.  NO cake?? I don't care if I'm 100!! Get me a cake!! LOL!
Good for you on the 5 mile walk. Wow!! I've been doing about 3 on my treadmill and that is quite enough! LOL!
Enjoy your time off...and HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!!!
Hugs..Pam xoxox

jimsulliv3 said...

Happy Anniversary ! Many, many more !


cacklinrosie101 said...

Happy Anniversary to you and DH, Julie!  And I'm glad your MIL made it through another birthday.  It must be very wearing on all of you but you are taking such good care of her.  I'm so glad Zoey is getting back to normal.  Chris

ukgal36 said...

happy birthday to MIL and Happy Anniversary to you!!
Celebrations all round...
i am doing my Christmas card list and would love it if you sent me your address...;-)

mail4campbell said...

YOU KNOW WHAT THEY SAY...."Time Fly When You'er Having Fun!" Happy A and MANY MORE!! LOVE2U