My mother in law quietly slipped away in her sleep. In peace. Pain free.
The phone rang at the far end of the meeting room. My heart sank and I knew the call would be for me. My legs were shaking as I walked to the phone and even expecting it I couldn't stop my tears. At 0950 this morning my dear MIL finished her journey to the other side.
Rick had just given her medication for pain. She was restless. He held her hand until she calmed and started in to get coffee. At the kitchen door he heard her last breath and turned back. The hospice nurses were on the porch ready to come in when she took her last breath. It was so calm and that terrible noise was gone from her throat.
Now we are numb. Grateful that everything she wanted had happened. She wanted to slip away in her sleep like my FIL had done. She wanted to be at home. She didn't want to have pain. The pain was well controlled with the medication and she was in her home with her kitty laying beside her.
The dog and the cat knew she was gone. The cat refused to leave her bed until they came for her body. Then she disappeared for hours. Zoey laid her head on Ricks lap and whined.
I am home. No reason to stay there. Rick is still at his moms. Can't leave BIL alone there and Rick knows it is better for me here. BIL has no reason to be restrained now. So it ends. 86 years......ends.
We are such
stuff as dreams are made on ...
William Shakespeare
The Tempest, III,
iv
Our revels are now ended. These our actors,
As I foretold you, were
all spirits and
Are melted into air, into thin air;
And like the baseless
fabric of this vision,
The cloud-capp’d towers, the gorgeous palaces,
The
solemn temples, the great globe itself,
Yea all which it inherit, shall dissolve
And
like this insubstantial pageant faded,
Leave not a rack behind. We are such
stuff
As dreams are made on, and our little life
Is rounded in a sleep.
43 comments:
I know this is a sad time, but it should also be a time of relief for you. You are going to feel like a weight has been lifted off of your shoulders sooner or later...don't feel guilty about that. Your MIL was not the only one in pain, and now her pain is over...why not your's as well. Of course, this is completely separate from the grieving process that you will go through. I am sorry for your loss, but thankful that you can get back to living again.
Greg
Julia I am so sorry for your and Ricks loss. You two loved her dearly and she knew you both did. She is now at peace and once again with your FIL.Prays will be with you both in your greiving has just begun.
Hug to both Rick and you.
Sunny
My condolences to you and Rick and the rest of the family. May your MIL rest in peace now. love you, Shelly
Julie,
My heart goes out to you and Rick. Please find comfort in knowing she is out of pain, and is resting in peace. May God's love comfort both of you. I will keep both of you in my prayers.
Hugs,
Pat
Oh honey....my heart goes out. I'm so glad that MIL passed away peacefully. God Bless Her! De
I'm so sorry Julie. I know this is so hard on your family. But, be comforted in the fact that she went peacefully, and knew how much she was loved. You and Rick cared for her with all of the love and devotion that you had inside of you. Now it's time to take care of each other.
I offer you my condolences and will continue to keep you and Rick in my prayers.
Hugs and love to you both,
Pam
i'm so sorry, julie. at least she is at peace and rest now. my prayers are with you.
gina
((((((Julie))))))) My thoughts and prayers are with you.
~Meg
The ordeal is over for both of you Julie. Your MIL is at peace and now you and Rick can get some well deserved rest. My prayers are with both of you.
Jimmy
She is at peace now and I pray that all of you will be at peace also. I know it's a big relief to know she is no longer suffering. Take care of each other now. Yes, animals can sense when somethng happens. May her cat be at peace also. Hugs, Helen
Julie- Betty died loved by you all so much, with her beloved son by her side and no doubt you in her thoughts.. I am thankful for that. No matter how much we expect it and know it is coming, the tears take a long time to slow down. Peace to you all through this sad time.
~Cathy
Condolences to your family.
My prayers are with your husband & all the family , that they find peace amidst their grief. Thanks to the Lord that she went peacefully, that she was not in any severe pain.That she was at home, & passed over as she had wished for.
Helen sent me over.
God bless,
Sugar
So sorry to hear your sad news. I came over from Helen's.
Deepest sympathy to you all.
Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.
Take care.
Carolx
My Dear Julie,
I was very upset to hear of Betty's passing.
I have a humongous lump in my throat remembering all the love and care you gave to her. How you allowed us to get to know her and you through your love and care of her as she lay dying this long while.
She was a brave woman, if a bit child-like in her attention seeking, bless her, that always brought a smile to my face. But she was a warm human being who came to life through your telling of her story and her ending.
May God Bless Rick and you and most of all May God Bless Betty's soul which is now winging it's way to heaven, content that you allowed her to slip quietly and painlessly away.
You were there for her right up to the end. Even though you had your meeting to go to. That was her's and God's way of lightening your load. She would not want you to loose your job for her.
You are a wonderful person and a beautiful DIL. Who could wish for anything more?
May She Rest In Peace.
God Bless
With Fondest Love to you at this sad time.
Jeanie xxx
I came from Helen. Please accept my deep condolences on your loss. I am glad her passing was peaceful. Thinking of you at this very sad time
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It's always hard to lose a parent, even when you know they're finally out of pain. And it's especially rough to lose them so close to the holidays.
I, too, came by way of Helen. May I offer my condolences to you and your family. I am glad her passing was peaceful, but I know the loss is still going to be hard.
Sam
I am so sorry for your loss...and for your dear husband. Your MIL was a real trooper...and now she is at peace...many hugs and love to you both,
Joyce
Helen sent me your way. Very sorry and sad for you both, Julie, but a relief that suffering is now over for your mother-in-law. Isn't it uncanny how animals just know?
Wishing you strength at this difficult time.
Guido
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Was sent this way by Guido. So sorry to hear about your loss, it is never easy even when you know it is coming. We loss our dear MIL last Christmas. You will be in my thoughts and prayers. Joni
I am sorry for you loss Julie..please pass my condolences along to Rick..it's hurts just the same even when we think we are prepared...
God Bless..
Lyn
((((((((hugs)))))))))) to you and your hubby. I am so glad your MIL went quietly and in peace. My thoughts and prayers are with you all.
((hugs))
Jeanne
((Hugs)) I know exactly what your going through hon. I'm here for you if you should need to talk, cry or just scream. I truly wish I could personally kick your BIL's bum, I can't believe he's so low as to make this time of grieving so hurtful.....but I know he is........You did a wonderful, compassionate thing hon, giving your MIL what she needed during these past few months. She's waited quite awhile to see her love once again. I'm keeping you and Rick in my prayers on the smoke during this time of sorrow. Your MIL loved you and knew you were there for her, you were the daughter she didn't have. (Hugs) Indigo
I'm so sorry for your loss, but now she's in peace and no more pain.
Missie
Hi I just wanted to say I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope that you are drawn closer to God through this and know that my prayers are with your family.
laura
Came by way of Helen's journal to offer my sympathy in the passing of your dear m-i-l. Paula
Oh, how difficult and sad. Yet she was surrounded by tons of love...then, now...and always will be.
Sorry for your loss.
Hugs,
Nancy
Julie, I'm so very sorry for Rick and you. Even the inevitable is no easier to deal with. Glad she is at peace and out of pain. You are both in my prayers. Hugs to you, Chris
ohhhhh my friend... I am so sorry. Sending lots of prayers and warm gentle hugs to all of you. Love ya
d
You gave her the gift of HOME right to the very end. Peace. ~Mary
i am so sorry:( at least you gave her what she wanted
Deb
Hugs to you and prayers for both you and hubby. I know all too well how hard it is to loose a really good and dear mother-in-law! - Barbara
Iam so very sorry ..love Jan xx
Your family was blessed as you have said. But also as you said.....And so it ends. I am so sorry for your loss.
Guido sent me your way, I am sorry to hear of the loss you & your family has suffered. Peace be with you.
Lisa
Helen sent me...I am so sorry for your loss...God bless and keep you and Rick in His care.
Carlene
Helen sent me over and I'm SO very sorry for your family's loss! What a sad day for you...my prayers are with your family.
Guido suggested we call 'round. I am so sorry for your loss and hope that you and your husband and family are able to find peace and stength to get through the next few days. I'm glad you're mother-in-law was home, comfortable, and pain-free. Please take care.
Lori
Even when it is expected, it is always hard to say that final goodbye. ((( Julie ))) I'm sorry to hear of your family's loss of such your beloved MIL She is at peace now. Hugs - Julie
Came over from Helens journal. My sympathies for you and your family at this time. I am glad she was able to be at home and pass away peacefully.
Bringing special thoughts via Guido...
Linda...
Came oiver from Helens journal may God be with your family and I am so sorry for ya'll's loss.
deb
I'm so sory for your loss. Know she is in a happier place! I bet she's been dancing with your FIL for days now!
Angel
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